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Sons and Lovers - Mrs Morel the emotional cannibal of her sons souls

  Vision and Excessive Love of a Narcissistic Mother in D. H. Lawrence’s  Sons and Lovers   Marie-Geraldine Rademacher Texte intégral PDF Signaler ce document 1 Focusing on the unhealthy mother-son relationship,  Sons and Lovers  introduces the reader to the character of Gertrude Morel, a somewhat narcissistic mother, who undeniably manifests traces of excessive love for her sons William and Paul, preventing them from leading a healthy relationship, either with their father or with other women. Her disproportionate affection and the consequences it entails on both sons have won her the reputation of a “devouring mother,” to adopt Judith Ruderman’s phrase, and have caused her to be seen as an antagonist to her children’s psychological well-being. Refusing however to adopt the simple black-and-white antitheses, my aim here is to demonstrate that although this mother displays signs of narcissism, she also turns out to be passionately human. Deeply in love with William and

The Inverted Grandiose Phoney and his Enslavement to his Fake Life and Pride - Have Siblings like that!

  “[Neurotic] pride is both so vulnerable and so precious that it also must be protected in the future. The neurotic may build an elaborate system of avoidances in the hope of circumventing future hurts. This too is a process that goes on automatically. He is not aware of wanting to avoid an activity because it might hurt his pride. He just avoids it, often without even being aware that he is. The process pertains to activities, to associations with people, and it may put a check on realistic strivings and efforts. If it is widespread it can actually cripple a person's life. He does not embark on any serious pursuits commensurate with his gifts lest he fail to be a brilliant success. He would like to write or to paint and does not dare to start. He does not dare to approach girls lest they reject him. [...] He withdraws from social contacts lest he be self-conscious. So, according to his economic status, he either does nothing worthwhile or sticks to a mediocre job and restricts hi

So why would you go No Contact with the Narcissist

  S o why would you go no contact with the Narcissist you have enabled and have allowed them to exploit you: Everything about them is fake, and nothing is real Everything about them is a façade. They have no integrity It is all performance and no substance It is all manipulation and exploitation and no sincerity Everything is toxicity with no apologies I need to ask the question why does someone who is supposed to love me: lie, cheat, steal, use, abuse,   neglect, ignore, manipulate, triangulate, exploit, disrespect, disregard, discard, abandon, make little to no effort, responds to your pain with indifference, enjoys watching you struggle, enjoy your misery and resent your happiness. Having No Contact - your benefits: free time, more energy, self-respect, healthy boundaries, peace of mind, health and well-being, serenity, more time with decent, adult, well-balanced, mature people who love and cherish you.  

Scapegoating / Shame / Blame / Denial

  When we scapegoat, we project what is dark, shameful, and denied about ourselves onto others. This “shadow” side of our personality, as Carl Jung called it, represents hidden or wounded aspects of ourselves, “the thing a person has no wish to be,” and acts in a complementary and often compensatory manner to our persona or public mask, “what oneself as well as others think one is.” ...Sylvia Brinton Perera in her book, The Scapegoat Complex, writes: “We apply the term “scapegoat” to individuals and groups who are accused of causing misfortune. This serves to relieve others, the scapegoaters, of their own responsibilities, and to strengthen the scapegoaters' sense of power and righteousness. Scapegoating…means finding the one or ones who can be identified with evil or wrong-doing, blamed for it, and cast out of the community in order to leave the remaining members with a feeling of guiltlessness.” The tyrannical force of scapegoating, with its cruel thrusts of accusatory judgments,

Why I was fired for Whistleblowing in a Mental Health Program who were aggressively assaulting helpless patients

  Notes on my Employer’s Abuse of Power - My Case I confronted their paranoid false beliefs. I should've known better than to treat a paranoid patient. I raised profoundly disturbing questions of this Health Care Program that is based on a culture of fear and secrecy. I only encountered Perversions by those who insisted on ‘Lording over Me’ in the course of my seeking Justice for our Patients and the public. The Managers I laid a complaint against were the same as the ones who fired me.  I have been giving a voice to victims of abuse my entire career. The slandering lynch mob within this program has spoken. There is no commitment to change this incompetent oppressive toxic culture. They are all trapped in their self-defeating sense of untouchable superiority. They violated upholding basic policy and legal expectations. They do not represent basic Canadian values. I was screwed over in the same manner as the public is screwed over by this corrupted program. I was punished for se