We never put importance on how important relationships around us impact our personality and our temperament. Weirdly, the relationships we see and experience growing up influence who we will become in our future. No relationship is perfect, including our relationship with our parents. While they may have the best intentions at heart and may want the best for us, they are also bound to make mistakes. However, a parent’s impulse is to always improve and give their child what they need. Away from all of this, some parents promise to care for their children but may end up mistreating them – intentionally or unintentionally. This parenting style can be toxic and can cause immense trauma and abuse. In such a parent-child relationship, parents often lack compassion and are concerned more about their needs than their child’s. Although, there’s not much difference between toxic parenting and narcissistic parenting. Just like in toxic parenting a child can be mistreated, in narcissistic paren
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What’s the Smear Campaign All About? Sociopaths know the end is coming. Before it hits they need to position themselves to come out smelling like roses. It doesn’t work. They smell like poop. Always. When we fall into these traps we think its true love with a real person. The sociopath knows things we don’t… like that none of this is real. They aren’t what we think they are. The sociopath is obsessed with making sure no one ever catches on to just how heinous they are. Looking like the victim and the “good guy” are their ploy to that end. They go to great lengths to conjure themselves into the role of “victim” in the eyes of their “fans” and other prey in order to keep empathy falling into their slimy laps so they can keep taking and using and getting away with it. It’s smoke and mirrors. Smearing is a special brand of Hoovering. If we respond, they still have us. Love-bombing, complimenting, adoring, insulting, Hoovering, smearing. It’s all bait – our emotions hook
Notes on Melanie Klein - 1882-1960 Object Relational Theorist Psychopathology was based on intrapsychic and interpersonal events presumed to have occurred during the first year of life. Excessive innate aggression or the psychic reaction to aggression was the cause of severe emotional disturbances. Her analytic technique attempted to deal with these early intrapsychic forces and the interpretation of unconscious impulses. She emphasized the importance of early object relations. Like Freud, she believed that aggression and libido are the two basic instincts. The aggressive instinct is an extension of the death instinct; libido is an extension of the life instinct. She believed that the ego did not exist at birth but only developed after. Both the instincts of aggression and libido developed after birth into unconscious fantasies, the beginning of self-defence against the primary objects, usually one of the parents. She believed that from the aggressive instinct, envy, greed,
Why Do Adult Children Cut Ties With Their Toxic Mothers? It Depends on Who You Ask Image is in the public domain Cutting Ties With a Toxic Parent If you are familiar with blogs and articles about what to do if you are involved with a toxic individual, you are aware that the most common advice given is to cut all ties with the narcissist. Although this can seem like extreme advice, when dealing with a toxic narcissist the strategies they use to maintain control over the people in their life, manipulate them, and make them become the person they want and need can sometimes destroy the person being targeted. We look to our mothers to empathically reflect our feelings, desires, and needs. Her ability to do this sends the message that we have worth. However, in toxic families with a narcissistic mother, children are raised to believe very differently. This type of mother can’t empathize with, support, or validate her children, nor does she strive to do so. This can damage her ch