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Notes on Minions and Flying Monkeys - Enablers of Narcissists

What Flying Monkeys / Minions -  Do For Narcissists    “Flying Monkeys” is a term used in psychology to describe the sycophantic hangers-on who usually orbit around narcissists, and support/defend everything they do. Like the Wicked Witch of the West’s flying monkeys in the Wizard of Oz, “Flying Monkeys” (henceforth referred to as “FMs”) are the brainwashed minions the narcissist uses to carry out their bidding.  Below are a few examples of how this can occur, and how to dodge those wily jerks. How Narcissists Use Flying Monkeys If you’ve been involved with a narcissist for some time, you know damned well how they can manipulate other people to suit their own whims and needs. One common instance where FMs are recruited is after a breakup or when a child goes no contact with their Narcissistic parent. The narcissist will  charm a few new people to bolster his or her ego, and these newbies will be told all about how horrible, crazy, and possibly even abusive their ex or chi

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Narcissistic Friday – April 14 2015   Great work on such an important topic. Enmeshment (poor boundaries) is at the core of developing yet another Narcissistic child. The N parent projects their Grandiose Self, their Self- Idealizing self onto the blank slate of the innocent child.  Through extension, and forced identification they are able to get back from the child – mirror effect – Narcissistic fuel to support their own Grandiose Self they had before the child was born.   The most tragic figure in the Narcissus myth is not Narcissus, who dies from his self- absorption, but Echo who dies from never having been loved by Narcissus.  Both never found true Love. These children of Narcissists are simply being enslaved to “Echo” the grandiosity of the Narcissistic parents. A relationship with the Divine is the only way to break free from an enmeshment with either a close N parent, N family system or within a cult-like Narcissistic larger social group.  Some have said that Satan is alwa