Why Do Adult Children Cut Ties With Their Toxic Mothers? It Depends on Who You Ask Image is in the public domain Cutting Ties With a Toxic Parent If you are familiar with blogs and articles about what to do if you are involved with a toxic individual, you are aware that the most common advice given is to cut all ties with the narcissist. Although this can seem like extreme advice, when dealing with a toxic narcissist the strategies they use to maintain control over the people in their life, manipulate them, and make them become the person they want and need can sometimes destroy the person being targeted. We look to our mothers to empathically reflect our feelings, desires, and needs. Her ability to do this sends the message that we have worth. However, in toxic families with a narcissistic mother, children are raised to believe very differently. This type of mother can’t empathize with, support, or validate her children, nor does she strive to do so. This can damage her ch