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Notes on NO CONTACT with Narcs

Notes on No Contact If you find yourself trapped by  a Narcissist,  Psychopath , or Sociopath, the most loving thing you can ever do for yourself or them is to leave them be, exactly as they are, and go full on NO CONTACT. By loving yourself enough to call it quits and move on with your life, you also fully allow them to remain their same toxic, smug, artificially superior selves they have always been. Loving someone unconditionally — in this sort of instance — many times means respecting the other person’s desire to remain a BAD person so much that you have to walk away and stop trying to change, improve, or in any way “better” them. Going “no contact” is a term Narcissistic Abuse Survivors use to designate taking back their life, escaping the madness, and cutting off all social ties to an abusive person and anyone who actively supports, enables, or acts like a Flying Monkey (intentionally or negligently). It is not the same thing as  stonewalling , abandoning, or avoiding people

The Golden Boy and the Scapegoat in N Families

Below was something that came across my desk today that I felt worthy of sharing -  "I'm sure you don't need me to tell you this but when speaking of the family, the narcs simply view their family as a mere extension of themselves. The children are molded to confine to the constant demands, ignored,  and are left with a sense of wonder about their placement in the world and themselves. There  is an order to the narcissist chaos as a family system. In the toxic family they create,  there is always a golden child & the scapegoat, (the black sheep) as part of the family system. Where the child winds up,  whether as the devalued and discarded child,  (the scapegoat) or  inversely as the ‘Golden Boy,' idealized and over valued,  is anyone's guess.  it depends on how the narcissistic parent, the puppet master of the family,  views that particular child and the value that child holds to them as a source(s) of narcissistic supply in their own search for p