The ego is who you "think" you are. Your "false self". Your "self-image." Your "True Self" is who you ARE. And who you ARE, you ARE ALREADY. AND HAVE BEEN ALL ALONG! Namely, one in union with God. Operating out of the ego is necessary for early stage development. But staying there in the main into adulthood is essentially "not growing up". It's stunted. People have "successful" lives at that level. But it is a level without wisdom, without authentic loving relationships. Because everything is about the self-serving trinity of "me, myself, and I." At the most self-serving level, it is called narcissism. And even Presidents get stuck there. And it is toxic when they do. So frankly, it is delusional to claim the ego is merely an illusion. For when it is most fully active, it is dangerous to be in denial about it. The denied ego is dangerous because left denied, it becomes evil.
Masochistic Avoidant Solution – Embracing the Victim Role The narcissist is always angered by the lack of an adequate narcissistic supply that he has depended on in his life thus far until threatened. His masochistic N will direct some of this fury inward, punishing himself for his "failure". This masochistic behavior has the added "benefit" of forcing the narcissist's closest relationship to assume the role of dismayed spectators or of persecutors and thus, either way, to pay him the attention that he craves. Self-administered punishment often manifests as self-handicapping masochism - a narcissistic cop-out. By undermining his work, his relationships and his efforts, the increasingly fragile narcissist avoids additional criticism and censure (negative supply). Self- inflicted failure is the narcissist's doing and thus proves that he is the master of his fate. Masochistic narcissists keep finding themselves in self-defeating circum
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