Narcissism Exposed

KEY FEATURES OF PSYCHOPATHY The Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised What follows is a summary of key traits and behaviours of psychopathy. Readers may wish to view my website for material on psychopathy ( www.hare.org ), and a website for victims ( www.aftermath-surviving-psychopathy.org ). Glib and Superficial Psychopaths are often voluble and verbally facile. They can be amusing and entertaining conversationalists, ready with a clever comeback, and are able to tell unlikely but convincing stories that cast themselves in a good light. Egocentric and Grandiose Psychopaths have a narcissistic and grossly inflated view of their own self-worth and importance, a truly astounding egocentricity and sense of entitlement, and see themselves as the centre of the universe, justified in living according to their own rules. Lack of Remorse or Guilt Psychopaths show a stunning lack of concern for the effects their actions have on others, no matter how devastating these might b...

Signs of a toxic workplace In a toxic workplace, dysfunctional attitudes and emotions seem to permeate the atmosphere. Signs of a toxic workplace: 1.     Widespread anger and frustration 2.     Workplace bully is admired 3.     Scapegoats are always blamed 4.     Dysfunctional relationships 5.     Dysfunctional meetings 6.     Obvious hypocrisy 7.     Overly restrictive systems 8.     Incompetent or powerless HR manager 1. Widespread anger and frustration Are co-workers frequently in a foul mood? Are anger and frustration widespread? Do disenchanted employees outnumber enthusiastic ones? These are clear signs that your company’s atmosphere is toxic. In this situation, nothing realistic is being done to improve morale. Any efforts to make your company a better place to work seem superficial, even ironic (like having the workplace bully head up...

1.Grandiose false self At the core of the malignant narcissism syndrome is the individual’s creation of a grandiose false self in compensation for his unacceptable real self and as a way to cope with the external world. Like its namesake, the mythic Narcissus fell in love with his reflected image, the self that the narcissist loves is not his true self, but a counterfeit version that is superior and perfect. This is due to the self-loathing that is at the root of pathological narcissism . And so the narcissist rejects his real self and, instead, invests excessive love in an illusion. To call narcissists self-loving, therefore, is something of a misnomer because at the root of their narcissism is actually a kind of self-loathing. The paradox only seems, for it is his real self that the narcissist loathes, and it is his aggrandized and exalted fantasy self with which he is loves. The narcissist’s attachment to his grandiose false self accounts for the first three attributes in ...

The Greatest Show on Earth – the Narcissist’s façade or false self! The impenetrable wall behind that MASK and the rage that protects it! If you have ever tried to understand, empathize, or even help a Narcissist, you know it is futile because the closer you get to the truth or the heart of the ANY problem or matter at hand, the closer you get to things blowing up in your face and perhaps being raged at. The Narcissist doesn’t want their issues to be solved, they prefer to blame others for their problems – THEY HAVE NO ISSUES, you and I are the ones that have issues! No matter how viable or good your concern or solution may be, or how much unconditional love and support you offer - when you share it with a Narcissist, they will either dismiss it, find reasons why it doesn’t work or say the true problem lies elsewhere. It is their defense mechanism or denial as well as a diversion tactic. Blame energizes them and keeps them at a distance from the reality of their true issues. They ar...